Cracking The Harmony Code: Nature's Surprising Secrets for Getting Along While Getting Your Way by Camilla Gray-Nelson
Category: Adult Non-Fiction, 190 pages
Genre: Leadership, Women's Empowerment
Publisher: Double Dove Press ~ Release date: Mar 31, 2021
Tour dates: Apr 19 to May 14, 2021
Content Rating: G. This is a book for all readers.
In Cracking the Harmony Code, award-winning entrepreneur and best-selling author, Camilla Gray-Nelson, reveals Mother Nature's secret code for achieving personal and professional goals. Using "influence through instinct," she guides you up Nature's Harmony Pyramid to its pinnacle of success, peace and happiness.
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REVIEW by LAWonder10:
In the book, 'Cracking the Harmony Code', author, Camilla Gray-Nelson, made a strong argument in support of her experience and findings of a positive relation formula. She stands on a position that human behavior reflects the behavior of animal's. Through her observations and studies, she feels the same methods used in animal training will assist human's understanding of each other. I particularly liked it when referencing societies push for women;s leadership she stated. "... As if only by improving leadership skills can a woman hope to get where she wants professionally or manage to get what she wants personally. Baloney!" She then proceeds with her argument that certain personality types are successful without being "leaders'.
I, too, was raised on a farm, fairly isolated from other children. Animals and nature were my best friends, also. I love nature and have observed and studied much of it. I also have closely observed animals (and some insects) mannerisms and habits. Although I agree in a large part with her understanding and methods, I felt some of her research material was weak. While many scientists and researchers can conclude reactions and other observations of animals, there is no way anyone can make factual conclusions what animals think or feel. I felt stronger emphasis needed to be made that humans are defined by intelligence enough to learn control of their instincts, desires, behavior and impulses. great people such as Jesus Christ, Confucius, Aristotle, Saint Thomas Aquinas, and more.
In her book, Camille makes valid comparisons and formulas in creating strong relationships. She offers precise, positive ways for individuals to determine their own personality type and ways to interact with others to accomplish goals. She gives various examples for various situations at work, in the home with children and to bid a positive relationship with spouse/partner.
Although at times her presentation was weak in persuasion of her beliefs, her methods and possibilities of a positive outcome were solid and clear.
I offer a Four Stars rating for this book.
*I was gifted this book with no pressure for a positive review. This is my honest review.
Animal Secrets for a Happier Marriage
Don’t you sometimes wish you had a magic potion to turn your husband from disagreeable to cooperative, or from prickly to passionate? I don’t have a potion, per se, but I do have a new perspective and a fascinating new approach you may want to try that can work the same sort of magic. I call it “influence through instinct” and it can pull his strings your way before he even knows what hit him. All joking aside, the art of influence rather than argument is a valuable one, and learning to influence from the instinctive level can not only be effective, but help avoid confrontation and push-back. I teach how to use it in all sorts of relationships, at work or at home.
By way of background, I’m a farm girl turned relationship coach, first with women that struggled to relate to and control their dogs and now with people that need help relating to each other and succeeding at their human relationships. My new book, CRACKING THE HARMONY CODE: Nature’s Surprising Secrets for Getting Along While Getting Your Way, reveals the secrets I have learned from animals! Since humans are animals, too, these secrets transferred easily. It turns out Nature’s formula of getting willing cooperation from others in pursuit of personal goals works as well for humans as it does for horses, cows and dogs. Nowhere is this subtle but powerful formula more useful that with your significant other!
CRACKING THE HARMONY CODE is a peek behind the curtain of Nature’s hidden social code that orchestrates relationships of all sorts within the group, whether it be the many that must sort themselves into leaders and followers or just two individuals that must decide who has last say in a dispute. I learned this code watching the animals on our farm as a youngster, but dusted it off for myself more recently as an adult, when I found that my own relationships were dismal failures – personally or professionally. Once I decided to try to Nature’s formula for social success, my life turned around and I finally found peace. My hope is that women everywhere will benefit from my unique perspective on how life really works, and how to finally win at work, parenting and love. I did, and others can, too.
Relationships with your life partner can be especially tricky, because here is where instinct and intellect often collide. For example, in Western culture, intellectually we may think we are truly “equals” with our partner in a relationship, but neither of our Inner Animals (your instincts nor your partner’s) recognize “equality of authority” in any social situation. In other words, our intellect is not jibing with our instincts, so it’s easy to see how acting on our intellectual assumption can run headlong into the hidden buzzsaw of our instinct. No wonder marriage is so fraught with conflict! The key is understanding our hidden instincts and learning how to navigate around them.
Navigating relationships with the Harmony Code involves 3 main elements: climbing the Harmony Pyramid with its 6 sequential tiers, learning the 7 Animal Secrets to prepare for the climb and finally, knowing the 4 Personality and Action Style Archetypes (from Bessy-Boss to Nellie-Nice) and recognizing which one must be used in a given situation. The book covers all of that in great detail, but for now, let’s explore how a couple might understand and deal with money issues, from an instinct-based perspective with this excerpt from CRACKING THE HARMONY CODE:
“Situation 2: Money Issues
You have taken on the household task of paying the bills each month. Since you have always been good with numbers and with money, it made sense. You are very conservative with your spending habits, trying extremely hard to avoid emotional purchases and keeping the family finances in good shape. It’s why you are so angry every month when the credit card bill arrives and you see that while you’ve been saving, your husband has been spending like a drunken sailor! Not really, but it’s how you feel when you see the bill. You have asked him repeatedly to cool his self-indulgent spending, but he doesn’t stop. Your debt keeps growing and you’re afraid that soon your credit rating will suffer because of his irresponsibility.
First and foremost, understand that money issues are not about money. They are about power. Money, after all, is one of our critical resources. Control of a critical resource determines one’s status standing within the group—in this case a group of two. With your attempts to limit his spending, you are unintentionally limiting his access to a critical resource and the instinctive power it represents. Your money issues are more likely a competition for status within his instinct that desires a clear hierarchy. In fact, a husband directed by his wife to reduce his spending can actually feel emasculated. Your husband’s ability to “spend” money could be his way of exercising power that he feels otherwise denied. Again, this probably isn’t about money but about power and those pesky Conflict Twins, “Same” and “Equal”, that insist on some sort of differentiation in the relationship.
Take Action with Nellie-Up:
Be friends, not competitors. Don’t act like a top dog, guarding or hoarding information about finances; that could be seen as a Bessy power-play and create even more conflict. Instead, share financial information like a Nellie. Sit down together and tally up all your basic required expenses for the month (rent, food, utilities, insurance, savings, etc.) as well as your total income. Subtract one from the other and ask if each of you can commit to splitting what’s left over for personal expenses even if that requires some adjustment of habits.
When the next credit card bill arrives, don’t expect miracles right away but thank your guy for any improvement you see in his spending. If you go off course with your half of the personal spending budget agreement, make sure you fess up to this as well. What’s good for the gander is good for the goose. Honesty and openness are the basis of Trust and Trust is the foundation of your Harmony together, whether it’s money or anything else. It also can diffuse any feelings of competition.”
To read more about Nature’s Harmony Code and the secrets to willing cooperation from others, at work or at home, check out CRACKING THE HARMONY CODE: Nature’s Surprising Secrets for Getting Along While Getting Your Way, on Amazon. https://amzn.to/2QIkRMh
Read my articles and posts on www.camillagraynelson.com , “Nature’s Wisdom for Today’s Woman”, as well.
Meet the Author:
Best-selling author and award-winning entrepreneur with a company consistently listed in the Top 15 Women-Owned Businesses in Northern California,
Camilla Gray-Nelson has a leg-up on her competition. Raised and living on a farm, Camilla credits her business success today to the lessons she learned from Mother Nature in her childhood!
Combining a keen knowledge of animal behavior and her awareness of the human animal's inner instincts, she reveals Mother Nature's paradigm to all women who seek their own success at work, parenting and love. She shares the animal secret of Influence through Instinct, to more cleverly succeed in getting what we want in our professional as well as personal lives, while at the same time, maintaining precious Peace and Harmony. . . two seemingly endangered species in today's chaotic world!
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