"If you have lost a child, you know you're weathering the largest storm life can bring you. I hope that my words of loss, tears, punches, smiles, friendships, and renewed happiness can give you a sense of not being along on this journey."
Letters to Jacob: Grieving the Loss of a Child
by Maria Hopfgarten
Category: Adult Non-Fiction (18+), 138 pages
Genre: Self-Help / Grief and Bereavement
Publisher: Amazon; Release Date: July 2021
Tour dates: November 8 to November 29
Content Rating: G - (It's general content, no sex at all)
Maria Hopfgarten's son Jacob was born on January 31, 2006. He was the most perfect baby boy she had ever seen. But Jacob had devastating health issues, culminating in a diagnosis of mitochondrial disease, a fatal condition.
In the ten short years of Jacob's life, Maria found strength in blogging about Jacob's life. Her raw, honest posts from the year after Jacob's passing have been gathered into this book along with Maria's tips for parents coping with their own grief after losing a child.
Buy the Book: Amazon
Book Review by LAWonder10:
Letters to Jacob is a very touching and inspiring story of a young mother's experience in discovering her "perfect" newborn suffered a debilitatingly rare condition. In this story she relates the struggle she experienced keeping him alive, journaling her weeks, assisting where she could, and her "letters" which assisted her in overcoming grief.
This is a wonderful story for the general public, but primarily for those who have lost loved ones, especially children.
What is barely mentioned, that excited me, was the fact her husband played an important part during this time and her daughter apparently did also, for her to become so close to her brother. Often family relationships do not survive these types of extreme traumas. I felt she left ot a very important scenario by not including her husband's and young daughter's part in these many experiences. She i so blessed to have tem be so involved and supportive. It may have inspired a spouse or sibling going through similar situations to become more involved.
Other than that and some repetition, I think the author did a very good job in sharing this dilemma and healing with others.
I offer a Four Stars rating for this book.
*This book was gifted me with no pressure fr a positive review. This is my honest review.
The Ocean and I
When my son Jacob passed, I wanted to escape. I didn’t want to run into a neighbor at the grocery store or a friend at the gym. The most common things in life became major social encounters where I could at any time fall apart. I wanted to escape to a place where no one knew me, and where I could be anyone’s mom or wife. Not a mom who just had lost her child. This place became Vero Beach, Florida. Friends offered their second home to us. It was a beautiful beach house, and we spent most of our time at the beach. The waves intrigued me, and I started to associate them with my grief. Some waves crashed over me, and I had to fight for air. All I could do was to hang on. As times went by, the waves came further apart. When they came, they still soaked me completely. They took my breath away. But in between the waves, I could start to find air and slowly function. The waves never stopped coming, but in between the waves, there was starting to be life again. I started to enjoy the smell of coffee again, a butterfly visiting with me, a friend holding my hand. My heart was starting to find smiles again.
Five years later, and I am back on the beach. I sit on the beach and watch the untamed, powerful, endless waves. I never get tired of the sound of crushing waves. Five years later, I realize the beach is my happy place.
Meet the Author:
Maria Hopfgarten began her blog Moments with Jacob in 2009, writing about Jacob’s life with mitochondrial disease. She had followers around the globe. Maria continued to write blog posts to Jacob after he passed in 2016 to make sense of the loss of her son. Jacob was 10 years old. She has now turned part of the blog into the book “Letters to Jacob,” sharing her raw, honest first-hand experience on grieving the loss of a child.
Maria is the President of the non-profit Miracles for Mito and has been supporting families living with mitochondrial disease for over a decade. She has also been an active Parent Partner at Children’s Hospital Colorado and has been a Parent voice for many chronically ill children. Maria also sits on the Patient Safety Committee of the Board at Children’s Hospital Colorado.
Originally from Sweden and with a degree in Journalism from Stockholm University, Maria lives with her husband Joakim, daughter Sarah, and rescue dog Max in Colorado. Her favorite thing to do is to share a good cup of coffee or glass of wine with a friend. Maria loves the outdoor and is always up for a bike ride or hike.
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